One of my male colleagues recently had to take time off due to burn out from the project he was working on. He could have kept it quiet, but instead chose to change our whole company by being open about it. We now have a mental health channel on Slack, he’s leading the conversation, and he’ll be giving a talk on burnout and depression/anxiety at an upcoming tech meetup.
It’s amazing what one voice can do. He said that during his first conversations on the subject it was hard to even get the words out. Now he’s bringing it up in team meetings.
It triggered me to start getting one to one feedback from our team – armed with a list of simple metrics to gather, I’m trying to gain as much information as I can on how people at work are feeling about the way we do things as a company.
People’s views can be so different. For some of the team, the lack of regular feedback is a huge problem in the company, for others, it’s barely on their radar. Some people like our slightly unstructured approach, while others find it frustrating.
I’m trying to focus on listening. In my role, there’s a delicate balance between listening – letting people say all they have to say – and making suggestions and keeping things moving. It can be a tricky tightrope to walk. I’m part traditional project manager (tasks, timelines and budgets), part agile coach (continuous improvement and facilitation).
I’ve reached out to another agile coach to practice my listening skills while giving and receiving feedback and advice, and I’m always on the look out for new people to learn from. We all need to be heard in order to grow as people, both professionally and personally.